Sexual harassment and abuse of girls and women see no age, status, or class. The perpetrators are often those who are personally known to the victim, and the younger their preys are the more courage they have for abusing them. But this does not mean that young girls have to accept the trauma quietly. You can always defend yourself, or/and even involve your parents for the same.
In a brave move, Bollywood actor Aamir Khan’s daughter Ira Khan has opened up on social media about being sexually abused as a teenager. She has revealed that the abuser was someone known to her and her family. Highlight the fact that your financial and social status cannot protect you from such evils, Ira wrote on an Instagram post:
“I never spoke to anyone about anything because I assumed that my privilege meant I should handle my stuff on my own [….] my feelings weren’t something I should bother anyone else with. No problem was big enough to ponder too long about. What would anyone do? I had everything. What would anyone say?
I still think there’s a small part of me that thinks I’m making all this up, that I have nothing to feel bad about, that I’m not trying hard enough, that maybe I’m over reacting. [….]
And no matter how many things I have, how nice to me people are because of my dad, how nice to me people are because they love and care about me... if I feel a certain way, a certain not nice way, then how much can rationally trying to explain these things to myself do?
Shouldn’t I instead get up and try and fix things? And if I can’t do that for myself? Shouldn’t I ask for help?”
In a nine-minute video she poster on Instagram earlier this week, Ira says that as a 14-year-old, she was not sure of what was happening. “At that time I couldn’t understand whether the person realised what he was doing and I didn’t know who to confide in. It took me a year to be sure that the person was aware of his actions. I immediately wrote my parents an email and got myself out of that situation. Once I was out it didn’t feel so bad. I was not scared anymore.”
Last month, Ira had also spoken about struggling with clinical depression – a move which got her more flak than support from social media because of the ‘privilege’ she comes from.
Aamir Khan's daughter revel she was sexually abused when she was 14. Few weeks ago she told she was depression patient.
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In fact, actor Kangana Ranaut was among those who took the opportunity to troll the 23-year-old, stating that it was Ira’s parents’ divorce that caused her depression. Ira later stated that she does not come from a ‘broken family’ and that her parents had an amicable divorce- which in itself was a privilege for her and her brother Junaid.
Ira had also said that she wants to spread awareness on mental health through her own story. “I am not really looking for advice from these videos. I am not looking for help as to how to handle my depression. I have my doctors and lots of people I am talking to and I am sort of handling that as best as I can," she had said in a video on Instagram.