Despite the porn-ban in India, we are the third-largest consumers of of porn with 30 percent female users. Pornhub in a recent report stated that every three in four people watch porn on their phones globally and of the total traffic of 33.5 billion on the site, 29 percent of them were women. Keep the momentum going, girls!
During the lockdown phase, Indians were leading in porn consumption with a 95 percent spike in traffic to adult sites. Watching porn is normal and these stats just say it out loud. But (yes there is always a but), there are a lot of misconceptions surrounding women that are created by the porn industry. These misconceptions or expectations are deeply seeded in the minds of men and women majorly due to the lack of sex education or openness with the partner.
Men watch porn and see a female pornstar enact a certain thing, next up, they expect the same from their partner. And women being women, don't say no. They often allow men to have misconceptions and try hard live up to them. Even if it comes as a cost to their own physical and mental well-being. So, we have decided to do the talking for you. Here are some myths which porn has created about women and we are about to bust 'em all.
Myth #1: Penetration is the key to orgasm
Remember watching all the porn videos where inserting almost anything and everything inside a woman’s vagina arouses her? Umm, that’s not the case with every woman. Penetration is great but not the end means for a woman to have an orgasm. 75 percent of women can't orgasm from penetration alone. Then there is this full hardcore furious in and out penetration mode. That doesn't serve the purpose either. So stop faking orgasms and educate your partners about your G-spot.
Myth #2: All women love dirty talk in bed
Okay. This is basic. Dirty talks can be highly variable but usually, men go extreme and call names like slut, whore, or bitch. Now that may not arouse many women and it's important to note men are not completely at fault. They have watched it, and simply don’t know better. So, you and your partner need to talk about whether you like having your sex narrated and being called names or not.
Myth #3: Women should always say “yes” to any sexual requests
Studies have shown that couples who try new things sexually have an overall greater relationship satisfaction than couples who don’t. However, saying yes to just about anything is not right. Remember, you are not an artist in a pornographic movie and you have the right to decline to what makes you uncomfortable or may impact your sexual health. So if vibrators and bondage acts aren't your thing, let your partner know.
Myth #4: Women can reach orgasm in any position
This is an extension of the orgasm through penetration myth. The actors, we need to understand, are just doing their job and they often exaggerate to please their audience. Not every woman is comfortable having sex in 10 different positions and not every woman can achieve climax in those different positions. Don't conclude that there is something wrong with you if you cannot reach orgasm in the same way porn actresses do as women have wide variability of what works for them and what doesn't when it comes to sexual pleasure and climax.
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Myth #5: No pubic hair, just flawless skin
Pornography portrays women as perfect flawless humans. They have the most perfect body and most are bare down there. This is a myth. We all are perfect in our imperfect ways and going down bare or getting a B-wax is not necessary. Having pubic hair not only protects women from various vaginal infections but also saves them from the immense pain and a pocket pinch of waxing.
Porn videos are just like any other movie or song video which have actors in them. Believing everything shown in porn and having expectations based on it is not only highly illogical but also tends pressurize a women’s mental health and their overall well-being. Sex should be enjoyed and there should be an environment of openness and acceptance of a partner’s choices. Failure of such communication channels can not only hamper your performance on the bed but also damage the relationship in the long run.
(Edited by Neha Baid)
